I suffer from the occasional bout of nerves and it wasn't until recently that I realized what calms me most: the support of someone close to me.
Not just general, free-floating support though. Nitty, gritty "I've got your back" support specifically regarding about what I'm nervous. I noticed this when I had cold feet about taking a class. It is often difficult for me to decipher hesitance from complete aversion. My mom suggested that the class be a safe and positive learning experience that I could take or leave. When the nervousness clustered in my stomach dispersed, I recognized that I wanted to take the class but had butterflies about it. With that firm energy from my mom, I immediately felt my energy transform and the anxiety dissipate. I felt solid and grounded. Next time someone around me has anxiety, I'm going to remember to comfort them in a way I'm personally relaxed by. Sometimes, asking questions about the issue at hand just isn't the way to go... And sometimes, all it takes to turn a thought around is the acknowledgement that we have power over our thoughts. Not the opposite.
